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Hello, My name is Dave Nassaney.
I am the host of the very popular I-Tunes Podcast, Dave, The Caregiver’s Caregiver Radio Show, and I’m the best-selling author of, It’s My Life, Too! Reclaim Your Caregiver Sanity. My book signing is scheduled at Barns & Nobel on Veterans Day, Saturday,11-18-17. A great opportunity to celebrate Family Caregiver Month AND Caregivers to Veterans at the same time. We will be doing a TV media blitz the entire month of November across the country. (see attached press release and segment proposal)
I’ve been a caregiver for my wife, who’s been paralyzed for 21 years, and I speak frequently on the topic of caregiving, including at Harvard, and I have a really important segment for about 29% of your audience (31% of U.S. households), and it’s particularly important for the month of November which is National Family Caregiver’s Month, and my segment is called, How to Prevent Your Loved One’s Illness or Disease from Killing YOU.
During the past year, according to the National Alliance of Caregiving, more than 65.7 million adults are unpaid caregivers, including Henry Winkler, Dwayne (The Rock) Johnson, Hillary Clinton and Queen Latifah. And I say that there are 3 huge mistakes to avoid if you want to prevent your loved one’s illness or disease from actually killing YOU!
The first mistake you must avoid is NOT putting your needs FIRST, even though you’re the caregiver, you have to take care of YOU before YOU can take care of anybody else. And to illustrate this point, I’m going to have an airplane oxygen mask and put it on your host during the show to show that you always have to put your oxygen mask on first so that you will be able to take care of others afterwards.
The second mistake to avoid is NOT asking for help. You’ve got a cell phone, use it! Call your brother, call your sister, call your parent’s ex-wife, call your wife’s kids. You need people to help you. And I know from first-hand experience that the pressure is for you as the spouse is to do it all, or for you as the primary caregiver to do it all, but if you don’t reach out and ask for help, then you are going to be at risk of having your loved one’s disease actually kill you.
And then the third mistake you must avoid as a caregiver is allowing guilt to influence your decisions. It’s like you are handcuffed to this person, because you are their primary caregiver, and you’re always going to feel guilty that you’re not doing enough, or you’re not doing a good enough job, or that you’re not having fun, or a good time as the caregiver. All these guilt feelings will actually kill you if you allow them to get out of hand. So how can you actually take care of yourself?
My CARE formula starts with the letter C.
C: Communicate with friends. Don’t isolate yourself.
A: Ask for help, and be specific.
R: Rest, You need to be well rested so you can take care of yourself. And then the
E: in my formula is Eat. You need to eat nutritious food so you can have the strength and health to take care of yourself, because as I’ve said, If you can’t take care of you, you can’t take care of anybody else.